"I can't do it", "It's not for me", "I don't know how to start", "I won't be able to keep pushing", "I don't know how to do it", "I just can't". How do you know? "I just know". Have you even tried?
I mentioned about some kind of fear in my last post and it's in my head since then. It happens when you stand before big change in your life. And most of the time it's something totally new. You start to feel this pressure on you to make up your mind, time's running out, pressure becomes high stress, stress takes damage and finally it kills your confidence. And what do you say? "I can't do it". That's the dumbest thing you can say before you even stand up from chair and do your first step into new direction. Otherwise, how can you even know? You can't. You have to try.
And what if you can't make it? What if it's harder than you expected or others told you? What if ...? What if ...? What if ...? Enough!
There's only one question you can ask yourself. It's not easy all the time when you change things in your life. It never is. But it's getting easier for you along with every one you make. I promise. Changing habits it's one of the hardest things ever and pushing yourself everyday to do something when you've been just living the life is way harder. But it's worth every smallest effort. Yes, smallest. I believe that little changes are ingredients of something really big. You can't build a wall with a giant block of concrete because you won't be able to lift that. You build it brick by brick and slowly you see how's your effort becomes a real thing.
So what's your question? 'What if I had never tried?'
Then you would never know what have you missed. 'Okay, let's say I'd fail. What your oh so wise words for me to that?'. Failure is good thing. Really. It supposed you to show you how much you have to work to be better or achieve something. 'But I've failed!' You did! And you didn't. You can't say all these thing you've learnt, skills you improved were for nothing! Look back to the day you haven't known all those. And? How better are you now? That's right. It's always success when you move forward. And if you achieve something else by the way it's just great. But your reward is your improvement.
Everything takes time. Especially crafting skills. Because I think programming is modern crafting thing. You use keyboard to make something. And I'm in love in crafting, woodwork is my second favorite. I have a plan to make some simple furnitures in the future for my apartment. And I'm aware of that wardrobe won't be my first. Maybe coffee table. Why? Because I not skilled enough to do it. Of course I can try. But why for? To get mad and frustrated? Just to loose month on mistakes I would avoid if I started with simpler things? No. I'd be way more happy if I carve a beautiful wooden spoon within few hours than ugly, useless big locker. This is another reason why starting with small things is better. You learn basics by basics and start with more advanced functions, and those small can motivate you to do harder ones.
'But I can learn double time so I'd become who I want to be faster!' Probably yes. Everyone are different. For me: rest is important. So I can really focus on learning/working for long long time during the day, but I need rest my brain. There're people of course who don't need that, although in my opinion it's a short run. Everyone gets tired sooner or later. And there's no point forcing yourself to do it just because you see on social media how everyone instantly hustle. Yes, it looks like this but don't take it so seriously. Of course we all have days of non-stop working/learning/exercising, but it's nothing healthy for a long term. Especially when you're older than 20. But I'm speaking for myself only. If you have energy, don't feel tired - good for you! But only when you feel you need to rest - get some rest.
And coming back to social media: people always code. For real. There are posts in the middle of the night, stories of closing PCs with a clock sticker to show how late someone stays at night to be better, showing off calendars fulfilled with tasks from 6am til 2am and there're coding-client-meeting-coding-coffee-gym-coding-udemy-course-coding-im-soTired-coding-goodNight. And seriously(before someone tell me I'm jealous because I'm too lazy): THERE"S NO NOTHING BAD IN IT!!! I stand with applause to every person who has energy and motivation to work so hard. I really do. Aaaand I'm jealous because I want that amount of energy too, haha!
BUT what's the reaction? Noobs try to code 24/7 for real, because they can't see difference between SM and reality. They see post after post when people code and in their mind there's no 100 people, but only ONE PERSON. How's that? I have absolutely no idea. And I haven't come up with that, it's also from newbies who wrote me.
So why they/we post like this? To motivate each other. Because sometimes it's not our choice to stay up late at night working or learning. We have deadlines, clients, expectations, skills to learn to be on top web/app builders. Like every crafter.
And why we post that we're tired? Because we are. And you should know that it's not only lovely tapping the keyboard, drinking speciality drip coffee in a fancy cafe on the roof with beautiful city view. It's work. We love it, but it's work and work makes you tired. Period.
And being tired it's not a failure. It's a great success, because tiredness is a sign of hard work.
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